A 5-step method to fix codependency: If you feel irritated, guilty or have negative thoughts, answer these questions: 1) What upset me? Example: ”I’m upset that they don’t want to spend time with me.” 2) How did that make me feel? Example: “It makes me feel like I’m unimportant, like they secretly hate being around me.” 3) What do THEY need to feel seen and safe? What do I need to feel seen and safe? Example: “They need to be seen by their friends, and to feel that our relationship is safe” and

Adult children of alcoholics and narcissists, those raised by emotionally immature, narcissistic parents, deal with loss everyday, but it hits us the most when we notice other sons and daughters doing everyday things with their children. It also hits us when we are raising our own children and we notice how our spouse cares for them--or we suddenly feel an ache or a loss during a trip to the mall and we are actually listening and hearing our children--in those innocuous moments, we can become ov